‘I’d be put off if he asked to split it’: Who should pay on a first date?

‘I’d be put off if he asked to split it’: Who should pay on a first date?

I d be put off if he – When it comes to first dates, the question of who covers the cost often sparks debate. A 2025 Barclays study reveals that UK adults spend an average of £111 per month on dates and dating apps, totaling over £1,300 annually. For younger generations, especially Gen Z, financial concerns can be a significant barrier to dating, with more than half feeling that expenses limit their opportunities. The phrase “I’d be put off if he asked to split it” reflects a common sentiment, highlighting how the financial dynamic can influence perceptions of romance and effort.

Traditional gestures versus modern equality

Some argue that splitting the bill equally is the fairest approach, while others believe the person who initiates the date should bear the cost. Despite evolving views on gender roles, many still see a man paying as a romantic gesture, not just a habit. However, Jennifer Read-Dominguez, a digital editor, challenges this norm. “Whoever asks for a first date should be prepared to pay,” she says. “It’s not about dependence—it’s about effort and keeping